can the suica card be use on all subway/metro lines in sapporo, jr chitose line (jr sapporo station to chitose airport), and jr hakodate line (jr sapporo station to otaru)

Suica can only be used on JR trains in the Sapporo area, so it is not valid on the Sapporo Subway.
The validity area includes the JR lines to Otaru and Chitose Airport.

can suica be use on JR furano, JR nemuro, JR Hakodate lines going to Asahikawa, Furano, Biei?

No, it is only valid in the area around Sapporo, extending as far as Iwamizawa.

also, can suica card be refund in JR sapporo station?

If your card is a Suica Card issued by JR-East, then you can return it at a Ticket Office (open 07:00 to 22:00) of Hamamatsucho Station of JR-East. Ask a station attendant at South Exit before you make a transfer to Tokyo Monorail.
- Hamamatsucho Station of JR-East
http://www.jreast.co.jp/e/stations/e1248.html
The fee is 210 yen, but when its e-money is not over 210 yen, you just get back 500 yen of deposit.

You can apply for refunding your railroad card's e-money only to the company which has issued the card.

seems confusing, i thought suica card can be used on jr lines, and tokyo monorail lines?

Unfortunately, Haneda Airport station is not a JR station, so you cannot get a refund for it there. So, you need to go to one of the counters of JR East station "before" you get to Haneda Airport.

I don't know exactly where you are starting from to get to Haneda airport, but if you take the monorail from Hamamatsucho station, Hamamatsucho station would be the last JR East station you change trains at, and if you take the Keikyu line, Shinagawa station *may* be the last JR East station you change trains before you get to Haneda airport.

If you are departing from Ueno then you will need to transfer to the Tokyo Monorail at Hamamatsucho as AK has described. You could then refund the suica card there and then purchase a regular ticket for the monorail.

on second thought, since i will be in Tokyo for only 3days, probably i may not buy a Suica - just travel on single-tickets, afterall there is no savings to use Suica - just for convenience.