My husband and I are visiting Japan (primarily Tokyo, with a Christmas visit to Manza Onsen) for about 3.5 weeks this Dec/Jan. Although this will be our 5th Japanese holiday, this one will be completely different because we are now parents. Our daughter will be about 9 months old then.
I've been doing a bit of research about the logistics of it all and have taken many things into consideration, e.g. avoiding rush hour, not going to any restaurants where people are smoking, asking if a baby is okay when wanting to dine at an establishment, being mindful of taking up space on trains/buses with a stroller, bringing baby formula from home (and some, but probably not all solid foods), taking it in turns to use the onsen because she shouldn't go in, tips for plane travel, etc. I'm also aware that department stores are very baby-friendly, and I have read about baby-welcoming cafes/restaurants on the Tokyo Urban Baby blog.
We will be taking our ErgoBaby Performance Carrier and possibly taking (or buying there?) an umbrella stroller that's very lightweight and compact. Knowing the difficulties we'd face with elevators, uneven surfaces and congestion on trains/crowded streets, I don't know if the stroller is worthwhile. The carrier may get heavy after a while but we would take it in turn.
We've booked an apartment that's close to the Yamanote Line, is baby-friendly, and has an elevator. This gives us the benefit of having a washing machine and kitchen, as well as the stability that comes from not packing up camp every day to move to a new city (which is our usual, fast-paced style). This trip will be a lot more relaxed in terms of itinerary, although a few day trips are planned, e.g. Fuji Five Lakes.
Now, although we're not inexperienced at travelling in Japan, we're a couple of noobs in terms of travelling with a baby and would appreciate some advice. As our baby will be so young, we imagine that as long as she's got a belly full of food, can sleep when she likes (she happily sleeps in the ErgoBaby), is warm and cozy and gets regular playtime with us and a few toys/books, she'll be happy to go with the flow and do whatever we wish to do. However.... Are there any places or activities that would be socially/legally/logistically unacceptable to visit? A lot of people ask what things to do with a baby in Japan, but we would like to know what NOT to do. We wish to avoid putting people in a position where they are tolerating us on the outside but secretly hating us being there.
Here in Australia we've been taking her to cafes/restaurants and shopping centres regularly, including child-friendly beer gardens/cafes during the daytime only. Although we haven't experienced any discontent from her on any of these outings, if she started to get unsettled or distressed we would absolutely leave because we don't want to cause her to be upset or irritate other patrons. Is it much the same in Japan or are there unwritten rules about things you just don't consider doing with a baby in tow?
As a new mum, I recognise that there are a lot of opinions about what you should/shouldn't do, but I'm specifically interested in what the general population would consider to be acceptable. Are opinions as divided in Japan as they are here? In Australia we have laws relating to under 18's in licensed premises, but besides that there are mixed opinions on what's socially acceptable. Occasionally some cafes/restaurants/pubs ban children because of the owner's preference and desire for a child-free zone.
In terms of places we're unsure about, are daytime visits to taphouses/bars allowed or are they ruled as being inappropriate? No, we're not going to get drunk or anything, but may we relax of an afternoon with a drink? What about museums? Shopping? Video game (not pachinko) centres? Can we take her to most actual Japanese restaurants, not the chain family ones? At the moment she sits happily on our laps while we eat, or we take it in turns to hold her while the other eats. I don't know if she'll remain happy to do that in 6 months time. Are the restaurants with tatami flooring common and inexpensive?
Also, are there any laws or recommendations in terms of safety for travel on highway buses? Do taxis have baby seats?
Are there any other things not normally mentioned that we need to consider?
Thank you in advance.
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