Hi there, I'm a French man, I wanted to ask you a question, I hope that I will get some answers that can make me understand a few things about that...
I started a few months ago to look for Jp penpals. Thanks to that website, I met multiple Jp penpals. That was the first time that I talked with Japanese persons, I was very glad.
I guess that a lot of people register on this website, in order to meet a Jp woman and, if possible, start a romance. It is not my purpose. I contacted Jp men as well as Jp girls (always with a close age to mine: between 19 and 23). I was even contacted by Jp people after I posted my ad on the "friends" section of the website. The surprising fact is that a large majority of the persons who contacted me were girls. Anyway...
So I started multiple mail exchanges... let's say, one or maybe 2 mails per day, per penpal. Nothing really serious... And we were talking about our countries, cultures, languages,... absolutely nothing related to romance, or relationship.
The mystery is that: many of my Jp female penpals suddenly used to disappear. From yesterday to today, poof! disappeared.
I am aware that I'm not the first person to post such a topic like that, and I apologize for this. But, if you experienced a similar experience, would you have an idea about what's going on??
I admit that, for some of my Jp female penpals, we didn't really have an interesting conversation. It was like, "what do you study", "where do you live", "do you read mangas"... So those kind of boring conversations never go deeper...
But, for many of them, I used to have really interesting and friendly exchange! We used to share a few photos, to write with a lot of smileys, etc.. (and, for now, I KNOW that a Jp girl who sends messages full of smileys doesn't necessarely like to talk to you!...).
Almost all of those enthusiast girls disappeared too.
It is often said that Jp girls are shy, that they prefer not to reply instead of telling you the truth, blablabla....
But I'm still shocked by all this. And now, I don't want anymore to contact Jp girls... I'm too scared to live those experiences again...
I'm an easygoing guy, I don't use to brutally end conversations like this...
Any idea about all this? Once again, I DID NOT harass those girls with romance stories, and I didn't even dare going deeper in the personal questions...
note: in spite of all this, I still kept the contact with a few Jp penpals, boys or girls. The frequency of reply is slower, less enthusiastic than in the beginning... but we are faithful to each other and continue to talk. I also add that, even if I felt quite upset by all this, I love Japan and Japanese people anyway. I never had any argument with my Jp contacts.
Sorry for that big amount of text. Everyone is welcome to help me. And, if they are Jp girls who read this, your reply is more than welcome. Maybe you feel ready to explain me the complexity of relationships in Japan.
Arigatou !!
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