Respectfully, I would like to defend myself!
Please remember, everyone comes with a different background as well as a different upbringing, thus a different frame of mind. ''Hellish noise time'' may be your description if your priority is peace and quiet. It will be different for those who place priority on children. Actually I grew up, both in a house and with lots of people. So I grew up becoming used to lots of noise. However, I know not everyone is this way/not everyone can get used to noise, so that's why I am asking. And I prefer to think of myself as being NOT selfish nor disrespectful by asking on this forum what others recommend. To me, being selfish and disrespectful would be to just allow my kid to do it and not even care/bother to ask.
Like I didn't realize what may sound only like pitter patter to me may be considerably more disturbing to the neighbors, in that thuds can resonate through concrete much more readily than voices. Or it didn't occur to me that the neighbor may have a graveyard shift. These are things that weren't in my reality before since I didn't live in an apartment where I had a kid who wanted simply to be a kid and play. People in my family had regular work hours too, so it didn't dawn on me about graveyard shifts. Not that I don't know about graveyard shifts, but just that it didn't occur to me.
That's why asking on this forum helped me to think of all sorts of perspectives that I didn't think of on my own. And since lots of people here in Japan do live in apartments/mansions, all the input helps me know what others expect.
And, I should add, on the other hand, without knowing me, you would never realize that, because I am so preoccupied with having to deal with * more * than regular typical family challenges, my mind is overwhelmed, too tired to even think oftentimes!!! -- which is why I am asking on this forum). Thus, I didn't think of what may be most obvious to you.
Also, I didn't mean to imply that I would let my kid run wild. He simply just wanted to go in circles holding the office chair handle at a trot pace. I also said playing chase when I really didn't mean to include that at all -- I only added that because when I wrote my initial post saying ''spinning the revolving chair,'' that sounded kind of weird, so I just added playing chase to make it sound more ''normal'' kid play - but I didn't mean for that,... it was a mistake on my part. In retrospect, I think I made it sound like he would go running crazy, laughing hysterically all over the place being chased. So no, I should not have added that,... sorry for being misleading.
I think for those who live suffering the noise of neighbors, this kind of post must rile you up.
But I appreciate the suggestions of what I could do to solve the problem, so thanks for that advice!
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