Apparently, you haven't been living with a typical Japanese spouse for more than a decade.
Surely, there is a certain percentage of Japanese couples who speak along the lines of "We love each other." More presicely, the English word "love" doesn't really translate as "aishiteiru," so people usually say things like "omoiyari (caring for each other)" "taisetsu ni suru (respect the other)" which is basically "love" in Japanese.
That said, the Japanese aren't generally educated to maintain their marriage with words, affection, gifts and anniversaries. The younger generation is more like that, but for the older generation, the generation that have been married for some time now, expect that true love is to be felt instead of expressed.
But two people coming from different families always have some kind of a culture gap. You may think that international marriage is filled with that, but oh no, J to J marriage is just as packed with culture gap as an international one. So quite often, you end up hurting your spouse feelings when all you intended was to care for her/him.
Therefore, you very often find yourself at ease when you ignore your spouse. You just have to try it to know it. It works. And some may think that ignoring the other is the first step to divorce or hatred. Well, sometimes it is. But ignoring him/her, and letting it be, can be another form of love.
When love becomes egoistic, you expect more from your spouse, and when that expectation is not granted you start hating that spouse. But by letting it go, you won't have to get irritated and therefore remember that you love the person inside of him/her, not that guy/girl who is putting beer on your magazine that you were just reading.
So long story short, when local viewers see on TV people saying, 'who knows', the viewer would typically think, "Yeah, marriage is full of mysteries and adventures." And if they're saying, 'best to ignore each other', the viewer would think, "Yup, that works." And if they're saying, 'she/he was the only one left', the viewer would think, "Well, and you seem to be the lucky person who's been with that leftover for more than a couple of decades!" And the viewer would think, "I guess it's not just me."
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