@ Helloo029
from your first post, the girl is decent!! a "good one" mate!!! ;')
in what you said reminded me of my Japanese girlfriend, she pretty much behave the same way.
Letting you stay at her house, and it's her parents house!!! that's extremely good indication that she likes you very much!! depending how traditional the family is, some partners doesn't introduce their partner until marriage is near. Although what it sounds like, her parents is very modern, and accepted you as a guest, and maybe potentially her boyfriend. it's good mate!!!
Majority of Japanese girls like guys to lead, be a gentleman, with patience, and feel their thoughts without actually "talking". Japanese like their moment of silence and body language of politeness. And from what I've been told by other Japanese girls, they don't like clingy men, overreacting, and saying the word "love" (unless you really mean it, BUT say it... only if it's a major moment...!!!). Also they won't love you straight away, cause decent Jgirls are "thinkers", and will test you (in every situation), it's a way for them to protect themselves. also many Jgirls believes love grows strong only in duration of time, even if you are married, you still need to keep it up, and the "love" will eventually grow stronger, and finally..... truly, she would 110% commit to you.
i'm currently in a long distance relationship (we dated many times, and lived together until her Visa expired -_-; ), LDR is tough as hell, but i already know she is with me and we talked about marriage.
although there are hard times when my mind plays tricks, and keep asking.... why did she do this, or not reply to this, or she is just being polite and not telling the truth. the fact is..... long distance is hard to engage what is going on especially if it's via emails and text messages. secondly there are many reasons why she is late replying, maybe she is busy, maybe her phone died, etc, etc. Just keep the conversational "light"... but meaningful without over "loving or clingy", and keep a clear mind in what she is doing. if you know she is busy (working), just send a quick message a couple of days later, telling her "今日も1日お仕事頑張ってね!”, and leave it as that until she respond. She will miss you more if you don't talk too much, like a reverse psychology. Oh....and don't email her or call when you know she is at work, or with her girlie friends.
as i said before.... they don't like men using the word "love", many believe "love" should be shown as "to do something" for the relationship, and if you told her you will "do this" (to make her happy), make sure you do it.!!! and be positive and don't have second thoughts. just lead...!!!
of course, you don't have to listen to me, but it's my own experience and study.
also don't read too much stuff on the internet about girls, cause Japanese girls is "different", even though.... many think not. but most stuff online is written for Western girls, and Japanese girl.... well.... even though they are "girls" who seems to behave the same like any other girls, their deeper thinking is different and much harder to understand. in fact i'm still trying to work this out myself from what some Japanese married women told me, it's like a hidden thought (乙女心(おとめごころ)わかって無い。).... go figure!!
remember, every "bad" behaviour that you may think about this Japanese girl, could be the opposite! JUST.... look into a different perspective, and not just one answer.
like many girls (not just Jgirls), they say one thing to you, might mean another.
hmm.... also don't use her as a Japanese language teacher. learn the language from different source, and talk to her, just don't start sparring.
and good luck...!! ^^;
P.S. i'm also started learning Japanese as well (with an online tutor). ^^;
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