Okay, for a bit background I'll start by saying the following. I'm an American girl in my mid-twenties and I met a Japanese man on this website in his late-twenties. We hit it off really fast, because it turned out we had a had a lot in common. As time went by we confessed that we liked each other. He and I talked every day on LINE and skype (talking, texting and video chatting on skype). Everything was going really well. Now, I may add that during the time he first contacted me (he found my ad on japan-guide first and sent me a message on LINE) he was off from work due to a hand injury. Then one day he informed me that he would be returning to work soon and I understood and told him that "maybe we wouldn't talk as much anymore because he would be working" because I know how work is in Japan for some Japanese men. However, when he did return to work, he still remained in contact with me for a few days and he would be the first to contact me letting me know that he was off and if I could talk with him on skype.
However, one day when I was talking to him (a Friday for me and Saturday for him, which was last week), he told me that he would be working Sunday and that maybe we could talk after he comes home. Something in my gut told me that we wouldn't be talking that next day, but I said okay and we continued video chatting for the next two hours after he told me that. So the next day, I work up in the morning around the time he would be getting off from work and waited for him to text me on LINE, but he never did. Later that evening I text him and said that probably he went to sleep after he came home from work because I know how much work made him very tired and that we can talk next time. Normally, he would have read my message and eventually replied, but he didn't. And not only that, he hasn't read it since that day (which has been a week now.)
On Friday (4/4/2014), I decided to send him a message (I didn't message him since that previous Saturday), because I remember him telling me that he has the weekends off. I waited and waited, but he never "read" my LINE message like he normally would, and he didn't even bother to contact me as usual to let me know we would talk like. He didn't even read it on Saturday either. I've been so confused as to why he is suddenly ignoring me. Then, I remembered that we are friends on skype, so I signed on both Friday and Saturday. Yet, he never came on, but it said his "last seen" was on 3/31/2014 at 7:13pm which would be 8:13am his time. I was not online during this time, but he never sent me anything. I thought, maybe he could have saw that I wasn't online and then signed off (because he doesn't have many contacts on his own skype and mostly came on to only talk with me)
Why would this guy, who has said the sweetest things to me and made me feel so happy, told me he loves/likes me, says he wouldn't go anywhere, I would always have his heart and never to worry and many of kind words suddenly do this? Considering this guy is older, I would figure that he wouldn't do this, but maybe age has nothing to do with it. When we talked previously about Japanese people suddenly doing the disappearing act from japan-guide, he informed me that he wouldn't do that to me and the only reason he would is if the communication was really bad, meaning we couldn't understand each other. However, he told me that isn't the case with us because we understand each other just fine and not to worry about him leaving because he wouldn't and how I would have his heart always. He always told me that he wasn't like other Japanese people and his way of thinking was more American, which I can say is true by the way he thinks and talks about certain topics because he is very fond of America, especially my culture (I'm black, btw). That is not to say he can't understand the Japanese way of thinking, because he does.
Is it possible that he cut ties with me by deleting his LINE app? Not deleting his account, but the actual app from his phone? Because a mutual friend also text him on LINE said that he didn't read their message either. Or maybe there could be a problem with his LINE and that's why he hasn't contacted me? But if this is the reason, why hasn't he tried contacting me on skype? I've been trying to analyze this situation with different possibilities, but my thoughts all equal up to me being played (using me because he was bored from being off from work), him losing interest that quickly by cutting his ties, or maybe he is so tired from work he just hasn't contacted me yet. He doesn't seem like the type that would become so overwhelmed with feelings that he would run away, because he told me that if he ever had to leave/stop talking to me, he would say so and that he always says what's on his mind and doesn't shy away from situations. In other words, he isn't afraid of confrontation if its needed.
I asked advice about this from a very close Japanese friend of mine, who is like my brother and he informed me that this situation also happened to him with a girl he loved and she stopped talking to him for nine months (except this girl is Japanese and from Japan). In fact, just recently (last month) he told me that she finally contacted him and apologized for disappearing. He told me not to worry about it and maybe he could be busy or just needs time to himself right now. However, the guy that I like, doesn't seem like he would do something like this, which is why I'm so shocked, confused and hurt right now.
So to recapture a bit: 1.) He hasn't read my messages on LINE for a week (I haven't heard from him since Friday of March 28, 2014 and it is now Sunday, April 6, 2014). But he also didn't read someone else's LINE message either. 2.) He hasn't tried contacting me on skype either. (PS: he has skype on both his phone and computer) And it still says, "Last seen" on 3/31/2014.
So, I know he could contact me on his computer if he wanted, unless he isn't thinking about signing on to check because I didn't think to sign on until Friday 4/4, whereas he signed on 3/31).
Any advice or thoughts on this would be helpful. Has this happened to you? Also, if you are a Japanese guy (especially between the ages of 28-29) what do you think his reasoning is for doing this suddenly? Do you think he used me during the time he was off from work because he was bored? Suddenly lost interest in me by cutting ties? Or maybe there is a possibility that he is busy or needs time to himself because we talked so often? I'm not sure what to think right now considering we would talk every day for hours, especially since we liked each other very much and I miss talking to him a lot. Now this is happening and it's confusing me greatly...
Thank you in advance for replying.
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