According to my point of view, the original OP, a lady aged 35 with a master degree sounds just nothing but naive and ridicolous.
@My opinion,
The story you shared is interesting. However, your assumption about me is wrong. You compare me to a much younger younger girl who is probably a teenager with little to no life experience. My situation is quite different from that of the girl you mentioned. I have had guys who declared their "love" for me and even suggested that we get married, all to turn out that it is not what they wanted to begin with. I have experienced my fair share of disappointment and heartbreak. And not just in the romantic department. My point is, I do have some life experience. However, the man I met seems to be different. He is frequently expressing his desire to marry me, says how special I am and that I'm the best for him. This coming from a middle aged man. According to your logic, he must also be immature. To be honest, even though I wish he would help finance my trip, so that we finally see each other personally,without wasting any more time, I'm also glad that he didn't do it, because of the possible ramifications that would happen, in the event that things might not turn as we wished them to. I would strongly prefer to save that money myself and go visit him on my own accord. However, the employment problem is so severe in my country, that I'm still unemployed and got worried that so much time has passed and we have yet to see each other. My online friend/boyfriend/whatever, is not wealthy at all, actually. You see, he was honest enough to tell me the truth about his financial situation. A guy who tries hard to impress a young naive girl online, would have used a different tactic and would have lied about his financial status big time, right? My friend has never tried to impress me, neither with sweet sugar coated promises, nor with expensive presents. I believe that we are two adults who happened to be lonely, looking for companionship. Our biggest issue currently, is the lack of funds to materialize a meeting in real life, that's it. I'm by no means holding my hopes high and neither is he. However, we showed each other that in the event we might indeed like each other in real life, a marriage is a high possibility. I'm sorry for your friend's experience. I hope she finds someone better who will appreciate her.
@Is it really the case?
Even though the things you said do make sense in theory, reality can be very different.
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