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Hosting a Japanese exchange student 2019/8/27 23:20
Hey, we recently welcomed a Japanese exchange student. Hefs very shy and spends most of his time in his room.
How do I bond with him? Also, how do I explain that hefs to be outside his room, socialising and learning the language?
I donft want to be rude, I just worry bc he seems depressed (as he spends most of his time alone, and when we ask him if he wants to join us for dinner he refuses). Hefs been here less than a week, but from our previous experiences with exchange students, he seems like hefs not enjoying his stay.
I also want yo remind him to only sleep at night (that way hefll suffer less from jet lag, and will be able to adjust to our time zone).
Any suggestions?

Ps. I donft think he likes me 😅 he only speaks with my brother and when I say hi he seems bothered. Is it customary to only speak to men? (Ifm a woman) Or is he shy?
I donft think Ifve done anything wrong. Since he doesnft seem interested in talking to me I leave him alone, not to bother him. What should I do?
by BiancaM (guest)  

Re: Hosting a Japanese exchange student 2019/8/28 10:39
How old is he ?
Ask your brother to interact with him or try to talk to him with your brother present.
Or is there any coordinator or supervisor that in-charge of the exchange program that you can talk to?

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Re: Hosting a Japanese exchange student 2019/8/28 20:53
As a person who lives and also teaches students from outside of their home country, I can tell you that it can be extremely challenging and draining talking in a foreign language all day at school. I'm also guessing that this student may be suffering from culture clash or may even be home sick.

To put it simple - there are too many variables for us to say what is really happening. The best thing I can suggest is to give him time, some space and slowly encourage him to move outside his comfort zone.

I can also confirm that it's not a Japanese thing for males not to speak to females. There are other things - such as him being shy, going to an all boys school in Japan, having a domineering sister or some other obscure thing which we don't know or understand.

One thing which was rather enlightening to me was a conversation with one of my family's former exchange students years later. In their first week (she was Swedish), her first thought was "where the hell am I and why did I decide to come here?". When she left - she was family and we still speak to this day. Just remember that time changes a lot of things...
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