...I think it's simply that Ian Long is holding a completely Japanese style wedding ceremony/banquet, where the invited guests are expected to sign their names at the reception desk at the entrance, and normally as a custom give money gift in an envelope at the entrance, as against Western custom of doing bridal shower or giving other presents, and is wondering how to communicate it and make sure that everyone who comes gets to know that it's THAT style.
I'm assuming that the whole thing is a really formal wedding ceremony at a hotel or something or the like, OK?
By the way it is NOT an entrance fee, it's not charging someone at the door. Even for Japanese guests attending, it's not that you *pay to* attend, but that you normally come with money gift. In solemn situations, you just don't bring elaborately wrapped gifts and present it to the couple who may be standing there clad in and sweating in heavy formal attire, and get them to open the box right there :) But anyway on invitation cards even in Japanese language, you don't tell them that they pay to attend, you don't tell them how much, people decide on the amounts they put in by how close they are to you.
Here is what I might suggest... of course in addition to writing with the date, time, location, formal attire expected, etc., it will be advisable for your wife-to-be and you to make something like an additional one-page leaflet or something in English that you can send enclosed to friends that you expect not to know the Japanese style wedding. Maybe pick up some images/photos of a typical wedding ceremony and banquet (even the way people get seated around the round tables can be somewhat awkward for some people if they are not used to it), reception table at the entrance, the gift money envelope (as a custom in Japan, not as a requirement for them, of course), AND photos of traditional kimono and things if you are going to wear those, etc., and make it an opportunity for your wife-to-be and you to explain a bit of Japanese customs to those who may not know??
And of course, you should tell the hotel banquet staff in advance that there will be non-Japanese guests, and that some MIGHT NOT be familiar with the Japanese custom, so that maybe instead of those guests signing their name and give the gift envelope at the entrance, some guests might be asked just to indicate their name on the invitation card envelope before coming into the hall. ...And if your friends simply do not feel comfortable with the Japanese style thing, just invite them to be there for you, that's what matters, no worry! :)
I hope for you a very happy day, Ian!
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