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after reading your question, and seeing some of the responses to it, I couldn't just sit idly and do nothing.
I'm going to tell you a little bit about myself first, to clear things up.
I'm a foreign exchange student in Japan currently, and have been since around september, and will be leaving in July. Prior to coming to Japan, I smoked weed literally every day for about three years. During this period, I studied, got good grades, and even managed to get to Japan on scholarship. I can speak fluent Japanese, and am by no means a bad, or stupid person. The same goes for any person smoking weed.
I smoked the day I got on the plane to come here, and then, completely quit cold turkey because I was fully aware of Japan's absurd marijuana laws.
A few facts about smoking marijuana:
You cannot become physically addicted. I saw a few people responding on here saying "he needs the help of a specialist". Really, he just needs a reason to quit.
Compared to alcohol, and tobacco, weed is an extremely safe alternative. Alcohol and tobacco, which Japan consider to be "no problem" considering their laws applying to the two substances, cause more deaths combined than weed has ever caused in its long running hand-in-hand existence with Humankind. The fact that Japan almost ENCOURAGES binge drinking at nomikai and chain smoking, what with the extremely low price and widespread availability of cigarettes is deplorable, because of the dire physical effects that it has on your body, and mind.
Alcohol dependency is something that can actually kill you, if not handled correctly. You cannot physically quit drinking alcohol if you are an alcoholic, because the with-drawl will kill you. And nicotine, the drug in tobacco, is one of the most addictive substances sold commercially. Lung, throat, and blood cancers have all been linked to smoking tobacco. As has liver cancer, cirrhosis of the liver,as well as long lasting mental problems like depression, and a dropped IQ.
many people have said that smoking weed will make you stupid, because it kills braincells, and many people have also said that smoking a "joint" is about 4 times as bad for you as smoking a cigarette. These statements are absurd, considering the "tests" in which this information was gathered in, eventually said that the de-criminalization and taxation of this drug (just like tobacco and alcohol are de-criminalized and taxed) was the best means to deal with this "problem".
The route Japan has taken to deal with marijuana is one that makes little or no sense. The drug education program is pretty much non existent, aside from saying drugs are "dame". And most of my friends who I have talked with about this subject are usually surprised to find out that you smoke marijuana! Most of my friends thought you either snorted it in your nose, or shot it into your veins.
Now that, is the problem. Japan knows little to nothing about "drugs". The term is used to blanket all things that are essentially illegal to posses, and consume which produce an altered state of consciousness.
I mean, President Obama has smoked weed AND done cocaine. Not to mention he is still addicted to cigarettes-because of that, the laws in America are slowly changing and people are talking about what used to be the "elephant in the room".
And that's all that really needs to be done: just some simple, factual dialogue. I mean, cancer patients in america and all over the world use marijuana to ease their pain and increase their appetites, of which their chemo therapy has so wrongly robbed them of.
So your problem is simple;
Your fiance is smoking herb. He has done so of his own volition, and has realized that smoking, in reality, isn't that bad of a problem. However! He is not some drug addicted fiend who is going to rob you blind to go get his "fix". He decided to tell you because he has a deep, and emotional relationship with you, which is super-great.
The solution, is that if you are worried about him smoking and getting caught, you should tell him exactly that! It's a totally legitimate thing to worry about. Japan's narrow-mindedness about herb sucks for everyone who enjoys it.
quitting smoking is extremely easy. You just need a reason to quit :}
And to my knowledge, love is a great thing to quit for. I was dating a girl a few years ago who deplored drinking alcohol and smoking weed, so I stopped doing both, just so we could be together.
Just make sure that you quit "together". And don't let this turn into a huge, horrible problem. Because unless he refuses to accept what you have to say about it, there really is no problem. And people who smoke weed are usually really good listeners!
so good luck, and I hope what I've told you has helped~
and maybe you two should go to amsterdam on holiday! It's legal to buy and smoke there :}
best wishes!
Andaru GO
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