Sorry it took me awhile to reply about our wedding. We've been trying to buy a house since we got back, so we've been very busy!
The wedding was amazing! Just about everything went really well. The only things that didn't was it was so humid that my husband had a hard time getting my ring on during the ceremony (it fit before we left, I swear!) and he also got sick the day after the wedding. We tried to cram a little too much traveling into this trip. Traveling the 8 or so hours to Sakurajima the day after the wedding was probably doing too much! There was so much we wanted to see and show everyone, but we didnft consider how exhausting it would be. Our guests stayed with us for the first 11 days and my husband and I stayed for a total of 21 days. We all got rail passes (theirs were 1 week, ours were two weeks). My husband and I changed hotels 8 or 9 times! There was a time we were standing on a crowded shinkansen for 4 hours with lots of luggage in between trains with no A/C. Not so fun!
The only other problem we had was registering our marriage. We had no trouble with the affidavit from the embassy (understandably), but when we tried to get our marriage certificate in Kyoto we had a hard time because hardly anyone spoke English. Because of a few problems, we had to go back 3 times. The first time we tried to go before the kimono fitting, bad idea! After an hour, we had to leave before we could figure it out. The second time they found us an English speaking person to help us, but we didnft have our guests to sign the certificate because it was after they left (one person was still in Japan, but went off to do his own thing, so we were meeting him several days later). We got one of our ryokan owners to sign (he knew us since it was our third time staying there and he was happy to sign) and then our friend signed it when we met up with him later. My husband actually had to fill out the forms in katakana (thank God he remembered it), so if you donft know any Japanese bring a translator or do it in Tokyo!
But the wedding day itself went really well. The two old ladies that ran the kimono shop we used were so cute, quirky, and funny! They treated us like family. I highly recommend using sensho-kitamura if you ever need a kimono rental in Kyoto. Our translator, Haruko, was so wonderful. She really made us feel comfortable and explained everything to us. She even taught us a little history about the shrine after the ceremony. Haruko went way above and beyond her duties, and she really made everything go smoothly.
We went to so many places. We started in Tokyo, then went to Kyoto (for the wedding), then Sakurajima, then Hiroshima/Miyajima, then back to Kyoto, then Arashiyama for the last day with our guests. After that for the honeymoon we started in Fujiyoshida (we had planned to climb Fuji, but my husband was recovering from being sick, so we just went to lake Kawaguchi), then we went back to Tokyo which we used as a base to travel to Gunma, then we went to Mie/Toba, then back to Kyoto/Arashiyama/ Nara.
We had to go back and forth to Kyoto twice because we landed in Tokyo and left from Osaka (we had to go back to see our guests off and then back again for our flight). Our rail pass also expired after 14 days, so we had it set up to start after our 3rd day in Tokyo and end the last day we arrived in Kyoto.
Some of the cool things we did were the monkey park and bamboo forest in Arashiyama, pet the deer at Nara and saw the temple housing the giant Buddha. Sakurajima has one of the few gclothedh open air hot springs that overlooks the ocean. It was really beautiful. Also, we got to touch sea animals like otters, sea lions, and walruses (we also had our photo taken with a walrus) at Futami Sea Paradise (after the guests left). And at Irukashima (dolphin Island) we got to touch and take photos with dolphins. I was amazed at how close they let you get to the animals in the shows at Futami. It was nothing like in any aquarium Ifve seen in America. There was no extra charge to have your photos taken with a walrus or dolphin or to pet anything (for the dolphins, you just had to be one of the first 10 to sign up, which wasnft hard since these are small places).
We also got to see Kokedra gBuddhist moss templeh, which you have to make a reservation in advance by postcard only. That was really beautiful and not many outsiders see it because itfs harder to get into. We also went to Usaburo kokeshi factory, which was really neat for me because I love kokeshi.
Sorry this is so long! If you have any other questions, just ask!