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Wedding gift reciprocation
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2007/10/28 08:36
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I was married in Japan this year, and a friend and his fiancee attended the reception and gave us a 30000yen gift. Now it's his turn to get married, but as he's having the ceremony overseas I can't attend, and there is no reception anyway. My question is: how much should I give as a gift? The same amount he gave us (30000) or only about 10000 since he doesn't have a reception? As a note, it cost me 20000yen for them to attend our wedding, plus the cost of the wedding gifts to guests (hikidemono). Any thoughts?
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by RON SENSEI
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Wedding gifts
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2007/10/29 22:17
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I was married in japan a few years back also. My understanding is that whatever amount of yen you are given, you need to buy a present for half the value in return.
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by Jimbo
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uchi-iwai
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2007/10/29 22:59
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The half-value gift in return called "uchi-iwai" should have been given right after the wedding (at least within a few months). Giving gifts for the sender's wedding is a whole different story.
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by Uco
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Yeah, after the wedding we had our honeymoon in Guam, and we bought nice gifts for everyone who gave us wedding presents. So that really doesn't enter the equation. ;) I was recently thinking of a gift in the 10000 to 15000 range. Then they won't really know how much I spent. Good idea?
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by RON SENSEI
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"I was recently thinking of a gift in the 10000 to 15000 range. Then they won't really know how much I spent. Good idea?"
That's a good idea and a typical idea, but I don't understand why that makes them not really know how much you spent.
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by Uco
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Good friend?
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2007/10/31 09:19
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Sounds like your not the best of friends if your beening so cheap on the wedding gift. If this is his/her second wedding or something like that, I'd go cheap, but if this is his/her first (and hopefully only) get them a good gift that they'll use and appreciate. Spend the money!
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by Paul
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good decision
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2007/10/31 09:56
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I think that RON SENSEI's budget of 10000-15000 sounds very reasonable, and if he spends much more than that, it will only be a burden on the reciever (at least according to Japanese perspective).
I also assume that RON wishes to blur the price since it would be impolite and again a burden if the price of the gift is too obvious. I just don't understand why 10000 to 15000 range would be the reason to blur the price.
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by Uco
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I was recently thinking of a gift in the 10000 to 15000 range. Then they won't really know how much I spent. Good idea?
I think what RON SENSEI meant is "I was thinking of sending a gift, not cash, maybe just the value in the range of 10,000 to 15,000 range. (If it's a gift), then they won't really know exactly how much I spent."
I think it is a good idea, too, because if you give 10,000 yen in cash, it clearly looks like you've done a bit of calculation/subtraction from the gift money you got, and arrived at that number... :) And in the first place, if your friend is getting married overseas, maybe he is not really expecting the typical Japanese "gift of money" thing?
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by AK
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Thanks guys. I did wanna give something nice, but not put a burden on the receiver, and also not put a burden on me. ;) So I will get a nice gift in the 10000 to 15000 range. Should make us happy on both sides.
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by RON SENSEI
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